[Author note: This post follows on the previous one, a bit like a part 2. Read it first, then come back.]
Knowing something and fixing something are two completely separate things. Intellectually, we all know it. It’s a different thing when we need to change our lifelong habits, though.
One of the biggest obstacles I discovered is my need to be private to the point of becoming a hermit. Yet I also believe in honesty, transparency, and I love sharing my stories. On closer inspection, I realised that I had a deep-seated fear of rejection, and a need of being seen—someone seeing me: my heart, my inner self—a need that has seldom been met in my life, especially lately, and that has resulted in me slowly closing off and hiding.
I (re)discovered Simon Sinek’s message, “Discover your WHY”, which helped me look deeper, and I made a startling discovery: my business and my 2 hobbies (three things I could never reconcile) were all born out of my WHY.
So what is my why? I go into it in more depth below, but the short summary is this:
I believe in the power of story.
I’ve been mulling this over for a while, and I have decided to align my actions with my why, especially with the things I put online, like on this blog, where I’m telling my story in one way or another.
A person’s WHY is what they believe, what inspires them and drives them. It is your core values, and is not the same as WHAT or HOW.
Here’s my WHY:
I believe everyone has a story. Every single person has something burning inside them that wants to come out and be shared. I believe people matter—every single person, absolutely, unquestionably—and therefore each and every story matters. I truly believe that every story needs to be shared in some way.
I believe in the power of story, and the ripples of change that happens when you tell your story. I believe that all of us have something to share that someone out there in the world needs to hear.
I believe in the power of story. Even as I write these words, it sends a soul-deep thrill through me. That is why I want to scrapbook, and why I love the idea of Project Life™. That is why I love writing short stories and publishing it even if I’m too self-conscious to share it with the people I know. That is why I want to build websites and help bootstrapping authors, artists and dreamers overcome the technology barrier so they can reach their audience, whether through an affordable website, connecting their different accounts and services, or creating beautiful ebooks they can send out into the world.
Life has very nearly stolen my story. It stole my confidence and my dreams. I have felt guilty and incompetent for a very long time, and it has made me hunker down into myself, a lifelong self-preservation tactic. Habits are hard to break, and bad habits can feel impossibly so.
But no more. I owe it to myself, to my kids, and to those precious people out there that need to hear my story, to you, to get my story out. I’ve got other obstacles to overcome as well, like my fear of failure, the impossibly high standards I set for myself, and that nagging voice that tells me that I’ve got nothing to say, and no one cares anyway.
Yesterday I took a big leap: I decided to believe in my WHY, and that helping others tell their stories is worth something. What did I do? I created a Patreon* page.
Through it I want to help others tell their stories, mainly in 2 ways:
- By creating digital products that will help you think about your stories and let you tell them in a creative way
- By combining it with YouTube, I will tell my own stories, and by doing so, hopefully inspire others to do the same, because it is going to be incredibly difficult for me. I’m hoping it will give others the courage to try.
You can visit my page to take a look at the different rewards for patrons (i.e. subscribers), or just jump in and become a Patron!